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Dan Abrahams
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The Human Behind The Soccer Playing Machine
Stop the Moaning: Include your Players
Want to get ahead and really help your soccer career reach the next level? Read Dan Abrahams on SoccerToday. Learn to think, train and play like the best soccer players in the world — learn from the man who works with them and helps them be better.
A global sports psychologist and author specializing in soccer, Dan Abrahams is based in England and works with professional soccer players in the English Premier League (EPL). Abrahams has helped hundreds of soccer players – many who play in the English Premier League (EPL). From working with players at Crystal Palace to QPR, Fulham, and West Ham among others, Abrahams makes a huge difference. Abrahams has authored several books and has a Soccer Academy as well.
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Soccer Coaches: Fron The Inside Track in the EPL
Working in the medical department at a Premier League Club is an interesting experience.
It’s a place players often choose to gossip and offload. They’ll talk about training, about coaches, about other players, about other teams, about last week’s match or an upcoming game, even about their personal challenges. For some reason, players clearly feel psychologically safe when they go for physio treatment or a massage.
As a consequence, by spending some time with medical staff, you get a real insight into the mindset of an elite player. You get to experience the human behind the soccer playing machine. You also get to appreciate just how hard coaching can be. I remember, on one occasion, two players came strolling into the medical room I was working in, talking about the training session they’d just experienced:
Player A: “I really enjoyed those Rondo’s we did at the beginning of training today. I thought the coaches really energized us – I love it when they’re on top of us, motivating us.”
Player B: “Really? I hate that! I just want them to let us get on with it.”
It sometimes feels like you can’t win when coaching team sports. It sometimes feels like you simply can’t please everyone.
But you can try!
Let’s take our Rondo pair. How as a coach would you deal with this problem? One player enjoys you energizing him and finds it helpful, while another player dislikes this type of coaching intensely, and feels it hinders his performance. If you got wind of this information what would you do?
Read: DAN ABRAHAMS ON THE IMPORTANT OF SOCCER PLAYERS BEING CONSISTENT
It’s easy to say: “Oh well, there’s not much I can do, some players are going to like some things I do as a coach, and other players are going to dislike those same things.”
This may well be true. But if we’re in this to try to be the very best we can be, so what can we do in this circumstance? In fact, what can we do to create a more honest and open environment within our coaching practice?
Here are a few suggestions:
Suggestion One: We Don’t Know Unless We Ask
I once worked with a big international sporting team. One thing they did really well was ask for player feedback in between activities during training sessions. This was conducted while players were having a drink or while they were resting briefly between activities.
As a forerunner to doing this, coaches had explained to players that their honest input was invaluable for them to be the very best coaches they could be – so players felt psychologically safe to provide feedback. Granted, some players hesitated to do so, but the senior players and leadership group were always vocal and always honest.
From this feedback, coaches were able to tweak their activities where appropriate; they were able to have a more informed conversation with players related to training on a day to day basis, and coach-athlete relationships improved as a function of players feeling they were more involved in the improvement process.
I recommend setting up a process whereby players can give you some feedback about the activities they’re engaging in and about the coaching processes they’re experiencing. It’s a brave approach – a bold move. In fact, it’s a very different approach, but one worth considering to improve your coaching practice.
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Suggestion Two: Empathy Can Be Enough
A coach in the Rondo situation (as described above) probably can’t provide a solution that would keep everyone happy. So they shouldn’t try to.
In my opinion, they should empathize with both parties: “Player A … I hear you! You love to be motivated by the coaching staff during training …. Player B … I hear you, you want to be left alone to get on with the Rondo activity.”
“I understand both of your feelings – I get it – everyone is a little different in the experiences they want to have on the training pitch.”
By empathizing with both players, not only do those players feel heard, but they will also experience a lowering of anxiety. They can be assured that their viewpoints aren’t incorrect ones, just views that are personal to them. Your acknowledgment of this tells them their thoughts and actions aren’t wrong, just different – and that’s ok!
Empathy is, in simple terms a listening statement. It’s saying: “I’m listening to you. This matters. You matter!” What players doesn’t want that? What player doesn’t want to feel valued? What player doesn’t want his or her coach delivering a message akin to “I’m on your side.”
Suggestion Three: Involve Them
Empathizing with them isn’t the same as finding a solution. So where too now?
Well, that’s a challenge, but my recommendation is to include the players(s) in co-creating a solution by asking: “What’s the best way to resolve this situation?” This asks them to help solve the problem with you, as opposed to you insisting on either retaining the status quo or providing your own solution – one that might not fit with their view of the world, and one that might not actually solve the problem. In fact, there’s more chance of the players themselves solving the problem, so let them!
You can ask them other questions that might help them navigate this challenge:
“How would you like me to conduct myself as a coach during a Rondo?”
“Is there a way I can support one of you vocally, but not the other?”
There are a number of questions you can ask that can prompt answers to this specific challenge. The key is to avoid the urge to fix things for them. Their involvement is important, as it lessens the chance of them moaning in the future about the situation.
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In summary, I’d like to say that I don’t think you’ll ever stop players gossiping, or moaning and groaning about something within your coaching practice they don’t like. I’m not saying you can.
But by giving players the psychological safety to feedback, and by involving them more in the process fo solution finding, you can reduce the noise of disgruntled players in an adaptive and as effective a manner as possible.
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Stop the Moaning: Include your Players
Want to get ahead and really help your soccer career reach the next level? Read Dan Abrahams on SoccerToday. Learn to think, train and play like the best soccer players in the world — learn from the man who works with them and helps them be better.
A global sports psychologist and author specializing in soccer, Dan Abrahams is based in England and works with professional soccer players in the English Premier League (EPL). Abrahams has helped hundreds of soccer players – many who play in the English Premier League (EPL). From working with players at Crystal Palace to QPR, Fulham, and West Ham among others, Abrahams makes a huge difference. Abrahams has authored several books and has a Soccer Academy as well.
Dan Abrahams
Soccer Coaches: Fron The Inside Track in the EPL
Working in the medical department at a Premier League Club is an interesting experience.
It’s a place players often choose to gossip and offload. They’ll talk about training, about coaches, about other players, about other teams, about last week’s match or an upcoming game, even about their personal challenges. For some reason, players clearly feel psychologically safe when they go for physio treatment or a massage.
As a consequence, by spending some time with medical staff, you get a real insight into the mindset of an elite player. You get to experience the human behind the soccer playing machine. You also get to appreciate just how hard coaching can be. I remember, on one occasion, two players came strolling into the medical room I was working in, talking about the training session they’d just experienced:
Player A: “I really enjoyed those Rondo’s we did at the beginning of training today. I thought the coaches really energized us – I love it when they’re on top of us, motivating us.”
Player B: “Really? I hate that! I just want them to let us get on with it.”
It sometimes feels like you can’t win when coaching team sports. It sometimes feels like you simply can’t please everyone.
But you can try!
Let’s take our Rondo pair. How as a coach would you deal with this problem? One player enjoys you energizing him and finds it helpful, while another player dislikes this type of coaching intensely, and feels it hinders his performance. If you got wind of this information what would you do?
Read: DAN ABRAHAMS ON THE IMPORTANT OF SOCCER PLAYERS BEING CONSISTENT
It’s easy to say: “Oh well, there’s not much I can do, some players are going to like some things I do as a coach, and other players are going to dislike those same things.”
This may well be true. But if we’re in this to try to be the very best we can be, so what can we do in this circumstance? In fact, what can we do to create a more honest and open environment within our coaching practice?
Here are a few suggestions:
Suggestion One: We Don’t Know Unless We Ask
I once worked with a big international sporting team. One thing they did really well was ask for player feedback in between activities during training sessions. This was conducted while players were having a drink or while they were resting briefly between activities.
As a forerunner to doing this, coaches had explained to players that their honest input was invaluable for them to be the very best coaches they could be – so players felt psychologically safe to provide feedback. Granted, some players hesitated to do so, but the senior players and leadership group were always vocal and always honest.
From this feedback, coaches were able to tweak their activities where appropriate; they were able to have a more informed conversation with players related to training on a day to day basis, and coach-athlete relationships improved as a function of players feeling they were more involved in the improvement process.
I recommend setting up a process whereby players can give you some feedback about the activities they’re engaging in and about the coaching processes they’re experiencing. It’s a brave approach – a bold move. In fact, it’s a very different approach, but one worth considering to improve your coaching practice.
Dan Abrahams Top Selling Soccer Books are available on DanAbrahams
Suggestion Two: Empathy Can Be Enough
A coach in the Rondo situation (as described above) probably can’t provide a solution that would keep everyone happy. So they shouldn’t try to.
In my opinion, they should empathize with both parties: “Player A … I hear you! You love to be motivated by the coaching staff during training …. Player B … I hear you, you want to be left alone to get on with the Rondo activity.”
“I understand both of your feelings – I get it – everyone is a little different in the experiences they want to have on the training pitch.”
By empathizing with both players, not only do those players feel heard, but they will also experience a lowering of anxiety. They can be assured that their viewpoints aren’t incorrect ones, just views that are personal to them. Your acknowledgment of this tells them their thoughts and actions aren’t wrong, just different – and that’s ok!
Empathy is, in simple terms a listening statement. It’s saying: “I’m listening to you. This matters. You matter!” What players doesn’t want that? What player doesn’t want to feel valued? What player doesn’t want his or her coach delivering a message akin to “I’m on your side.”
Suggestion Three: Involve Them
Empathizing with them isn’t the same as finding a solution. So where too now?
Well, that’s a challenge, but my recommendation is to include the players(s) in co-creating a solution by asking: “What’s the best way to resolve this situation?” This asks them to help solve the problem with you, as opposed to you insisting on either retaining the status quo or providing your own solution – one that might not fit with their view of the world, and one that might not actually solve the problem. In fact, there’s more chance of the players themselves solving the problem, so let them!
You can ask them other questions that might help them navigate this challenge:
“How would you like me to conduct myself as a coach during a Rondo?”
“Is there a way I can support one of you vocally, but not the other?”
There are a number of questions you can ask that can prompt answers to this specific challenge. The key is to avoid the urge to fix things for them. Their involvement is important, as it lessens the chance of them moaning in the future about the situation.
Dan Abrahams Academy
In summary, I’d like to say that I don’t think you’ll ever stop players gossiping, or moaning and groaning about something within your coaching practice they don’t like. I’m not saying you can.
But by giving players the psychological safety to feedback, and by involving them more in the process fo solution finding, you can reduce the noise of disgruntled players in an adaptive and as effective a manner as possible.
The post DAN ABRAHAMS: GREAT SOCCER COACHES ASK PLAYERS FOR FEEDBACK appeared first on SoccerToday.
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